Victim.

Girls like to be the victim.

Before you go all Beyonce on me and start preaching about feminism and equality, let me explain. 

She said this.

She called me this.

She did this.

She she she. 

Placing the blame on others, even in small situations, often times (sometimes unintentionally) makes us the victim. We don't want to take ownership of our side of the story, because that makes us look like the bad person, so we put the blame on the other girl. This not only gives us a false sense of righteousness, but it also unfairly puts the other girl in the wrong. We take on the crown of victory by playing the victim. People will take your side if that's the only side they know. 

Instead of being victims of our circumstances and our situations, why don't we see ourselves as victims of grace? Think about it. Victims don't deserve what happens to them. They are helpless and they have no say in their circumstances. As Christians, we are victims of grace. We are sinners who do not deserve the grace of Jesus Christ. Instead of placing the blame on other girls and not extending grace to them, why don't we look at the "blame" placed on our lives by our sin, and then see the INSANE amount of grace given to us by Christ. 

As girls, we know how hard it is to be a girl. So why do we make life hard for other girls? Instead of placing blame and playing the victim, let's set aside the drama and the gossip. Let's join together as sisters in Christ and extend grace to each other in the same way that Christ has extended it to us. 

If you're interested in diving in to solid spiritual community with other girls, check out the info below. 

GIRL'S COMMUNITY GROUPS

Light Love Hope: Geared towards 7th, 8th, & 9th grade girls, LLH meets at Simply Yo on Campbell     every Sunday night from 6-7:30pm. 

Moore Mondays with Beth: Tailored to 10th, 11th, & 12th grade ladies, this Beth Moore based study meets on the first Monday of every month at Karla Thrasher's house and starts at 6pm. 

Braums Bible Study: This is for Nixa High School girls, and meets every Monday before school at Braums in Nixa.